There are many reasons why young people would want to run away from home—some of them good, and some of them not so good. Remember to think of the bad things that can happen. Probably the most important thing for young people to understand is that running away is a lot harder, and a lot less glamorous, than you may think. There are cold, sleepless nights; there are danger and hunger; there is a general sense of being lost and not knowing where you need to go.
That being said, there may be legitimate reasons for wanting to run away. Read this article to help you weigh the consequences, and get a head start if you end up deciding that's the right call for you. Stop and think about your possible actions. Why do you want to run away? Is there a really good reason to run away, or are you just bored or tired with your situation?
There's a difference between running away for a good reason you're in physical danger and running away for a bad reason you just got in a small fight with your parents. Don't make a hasty decision in the heat of anger; you might regret it later.
Think about all the people you might be affecting by running away. We bond together out of need and necessity, but also because we gain satisfaction from being close to one another. Try to think about the people who will be seriously affected by your decision. You owe it to them. You may not know it, but they think about you all the time. Think about your parents. Though it may not always seem like it, your parents love you deeply.
They see themselves in you, and they want a better future for you than they want for themselves. Fights and disagreements happen with parents; their love for you never changes. Think about the rest of your family. Your brothers and sisters, aunts and uncles, grandmothers and grandfathers—all of them have a relationship that's deeper than just a friendship.
It's very possible that your family will feel hurt and responsible for you running away, even if they had nothing to do with it. Think about your friends. Your friends are the lifeblood of your social circle. They laugh with you, they make you feel better when you're down, they sometimes even think of you like a brother or sister. Running away probably means leaving them behind. Think of other mentor figures. Maybe it's a teacher; maybe it's a friend of your mother's.
Many of us have mentors who look after us. They want to see us succeed and be safe. Your decision will undoubtedly have an effect on them.
Understand that in many cases, running away from home is illegal. Although most states won't punish minors someone under the age of 18 for running away from home, several states consider it illegal. Tell a teacher or other trusted adult or call the police. Make sure you have a place to stay for a night or two before you do this, so you don't have to go anywhere weird. You may worry that foster care will be worse than being with your parents, even if they hurt you, but it is better to risk it. You may even be able to stay with another family member or friend if you work this out in advance.
Even if you do run away in a state that doesn't have laws against it, you could still find yourself in court. Still, minors who are in the CHINS process may face fines, suspended privileges, and mandatory drug screenings. Talk to someone about your plans to run away. Address the motivation for wanting to run away, if possible.
There are many reasons why a child would want to run away. Addressing the reason why could help you solve the problem before it gets so bad that you feel forced to run away. Here are some statistics: Is there another adult who might give you advice about how to work the problem out with your parents? If not, consider calling Child Protective Services. If your parents ask you to leave or tell you they don't care about you leaving, call or visit Child Protective Services.
It's not betraying your parents to want to find someone who cares about you. If you are the victim of physical or sexual abuse, find an adult who you can confide in it may be your parents, it may not be and visit the police to file a report. Write a list of all the pros and cons of running away. Often, putting your thoughts down on paper has a soothing effect, making things more clear in the process.
Here are some possible pros and cons of running away. Opportunities to travel, see new places, and meet new people. Increased freedom and the possibility of maturity and personal growth, no matter how hard it gets.
Development of self-reliance, a sense of being able to do things by, and entirely for, yourself. Increased likelihood of spending nights outdoors, on the streets, under bridges or overhangs, or even on top of roofs. Increased likelihood of violence, drugs, disease, and prostitution on the streets. Feeling like you have no one to talk to, like no one cares, or like the things you do don't make a difference. Give your emotions one week to cool off before making any big decisions.
Often, we let our emotions make decisions for us when we think we're being rational. This can be a good thing, but sometimes it's bad, because we trick ourselves into thinking that we're being rational.
To let your emotions cool off and really give yourself time to think about your possible life-changing decision, wait a week before doing anything. Reach out to people you can trust and perhaps talk it over with them. After a week, your rational brain will probably have had time to make a decision.
This is different for each case, and so you should weigh the consequences for running away if your parents were to find you. Some parents get mad at you, instead of trying to help you. Think of what you will do if any part of your plan goes wrong, and make up excuses for everything. Here are some things that you always need to consider: What will you do if you get sick? What will you do if you are caught? What will you eat? How will you maintain good hygiene? How will you stay off the streets and out of harm's way?
Try to find a safe place to stay with someone you can trust. If you have someone who's helping you run away and can stay with them at least for a little while, you're pretty much set. However, if that's not a possibility, where will you take shelter? Pack up a bag with some essentials. Travel light; bring only the bare essentials. Now is not the time to set a record for pounds carried. Bring food, money, extra changes of clothing, a jacket or coat in case it gets cold, clothes with pockets, a toothbrush, toothpaste, soap, shampoo, and anything else you will need.
If you don't want to be recognized, take with you only the clothes you wear least often. Some other things that might be useful in your quest: Try to bring some of your allowance but don't take enough to get you noticed. If you plan to steal the money, find a place where you can get it fast without being spotted by your parents.
If you have a credit card, definitely take that, as it's much harder to steal and use, and you can cancel it at any time. Be prepared for your parents to possibly cancel it, however, when they find out that you've run away. Don't use it as your only source of money. The bank can track down your card, and see what stores and shops to which you've been.
Also the same with cell phones; they can track your location. You need to be aware of these things and use them wisely. Wait until you have the right opportunity to make a run for it. Make sure you have plenty of time to get away before anyone notices you're gone. Try making your move as soon as you get to school in the morning, or as soon as everyone in your home leaves and you know they won't be coming back for a long time. When you do book it, make it snappy. The last thing you want is for anyone in the neighborhood to notice you leaving.
Find a method of transportation. You will likely want to have a quick and easy way of getting around. Make up a story. You'll have to accept that at some point, someone is going to want to know where you came from, or what you are doing. You're probably going to need to do some thinking about this. Think of something reasonable and realistic, but don't say you ran away.
You'll want to remember it everywhere you go because word gets out quite fast in this world about anything, so you should probably keep your story the same all throughout your life as a runaway, just to avoid arousing suspicion. Avoid inconsistencies by thinking out the details ahead of time. If you are really serious about running away permanently, change your name. Have fun with it, but don't choose anything too wacky. But think about it, something common would probably be best because it'll be harder to remember, and your main aim is not to become too well-known.
Live near large grocery stores or candy stores. These places will usually have food samples open to the public which you can snack on, though make sure you take a cart with you and try to look like you have a purpose; don't hang around. Also, you can use the public bathrooms to wash yourself and do your business.
It's not glamorous, but you can always go dumpster-diving at the back of large grocery stores. You'll be seriously surprised about what people throw away. The more you dumpster-dive, the more your system will get used to food that's past its prime. In the beginning, it might be quite uncomfortable, but it should get better. Find shelter if you haven't. If you don't have a place to stay, you'll have to find shelter elsewhere.
If these don't work out, try looking for the nearest homeless shelter, and check their availability. If you just need a place to stay in order to pass the time, public libraries, churches, college buildings, airports, and train stations are all possible options.
These places are safe, while generally having enough people about to make it easy for you to go unnoticed. In the winter months, you may want to try to find a building with an elevator if you are in a downtown area. Try climbing the stairs next to an elevator shaft all the way to the top.
You may find a room that is nice and warm, that not too many people go into. Stay away from the woods or the desert. These places are generally very rural, and make it easier for other people to victimize you. As romantic as it may seem, it's really hard to make a living off of the land nowadays, especially if you know nothing about plant and animal species. Try to find places with other people around; they're usually safer.
You'll probably begin to need money at some point, so learn how to panhandle. Panhandling is asking other people for money. There's not much pride in it, and many people will flat-out ignore you, but with the right strategies, you could be quite successful, and maybe even get enough to save some money. Choose the right location. Find a busy place where people walk, such as outside a mall area, a convenience store, or a place where people come out with change.
Ask patrons for money after they come out of the store, not before. Alternatively, ask drivers for money on a busy intersection. Make sure you're on the left side of the car, where the driver's side is. Smile, and ask people for change politely and softly. You won't get very much money if you look mean or frustrated or unhappy.
When someone does give you money, thank them with a smile and a friendly remark. Don't use the foreign accent ploy. Some people find faking a foreign accent tempting, but this is typically a bad idea. A foreign accent draws attention to yourself. People will want to know more about you and your culture, when you should really be trying to be as invisible as possible. Moreover, faking an accent is extremely difficult; it doesn't matter how good you think your foreign accent is, it matters how much everyone else does.
This part is by far the hardest, particularly maintaining a healthy diet and a good hygiene. Hospitals are known to keep exceptionally clean restrooms, and offer good privacy. Here are some other tips that you can use to keep your hygiene high even if your spirits are low: Use bathrooms in big grocery stores. There's not much privacy, but there's very little foot traffic. You'll probably be able to give yourself a nice little hand-bath here and use some of the free soap provided.
Use generic sex-lube for shaving and straightening out hair. It sounds weird, but it works. Put a dab of lube on your skin and work it in gently with a bit of water. Shave up, being careful to wash the razor out immediately. If you need to straighten or tame your hair in the morning, a little bit works wonders, and it doesn't look noticeable afterwards. Shower at public-swimming pools, as well as colleges and universities. Officers met Arthur at Honiton station before taking him home. He went missing after leaving his family home in Axminster on the morning of Tuesday 6 September.
M rs Heeler-Frood, 53, confirmed that Arthur had not travelled abroad during his disappearance.
In a poignant note found shortly after he went missing Arthur asked his parents not to look for him and promised to return within a year. Please don't try to find me or make me come home. I don't know how long I will be away for, but it won't be any longer than a year. My bike is chained to the fence, there is a spare key to the lock on the window. I know you will be upset, but understand that I have to do this.
Speaking before his son had been found Mr Heeler-Frood, 54, said: You wonder if that had been influence. He was reading it on a Kindle, which he left behind. Mrs Heeler-Food said the social media giant had previously ignored her letters urging them to help. We urge you to turn off your ad blocker for The Telegraph website so that you can continue to access our quality content in the future.
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